Saturday, March 14, 2015

Travelers underway

Labu Siam (Chayote)
Friday, March 13, 2015
Josie comes at 9am to tutor us. Her mom, visiting for the first time, explores the yard, points out fruit ripening on the trees, and explains what it’s used for. “If I lived here, I’d never come inside,” she laughs. "It's like a fruit market." Unfortunately, much of the fruit will ripen before we return.

She goes inside with a handful of green fruit, "labu Siam." She cuts one into matchstick-sized slivers and salts it. Then she quarters the other before boiling it for 7 or 8 minutes. Oh my! Enak

"They're even better fried with garlic and onions," Josie says. "That hides the smell." Well, it may smell a bit musty but it's delicious.

A truck pulls in the gate as they are leaving. Tanya, who lived and worked in Bandung for years, has moved back to the States but stored some of her household things for us. Two wiry locals unload the truck and put the boxes and shelves on the porch. W cuts the packages open to find provisions for the second floor. These are needed things, including chairs, pots and pans, dishes, voltage regulators, and a bonus - a ceiling fan to stir the air in our bedroom. Thank you, Tanya! and thanks be to God for moving his stuff around.

We clean, do a few loads of laundry, and start to pack.

Exploring the backyard: what food is back there?
Saturday
Today we fly to Seattle. The pembantu Ibu A and her husband Pak E arrive at 8am. She irons a few clothes to be packed. She'll empty the freezer and fridge and share the food with her family. He pulls the paint roller out of the tray of white paint he left out overnight. ("The air is so humid that it doesn't dry out," says W.) Pak E continues his swath through the house. It takes him 2-3 days to patch and paint a bedroom so we know he’s in no hurry.

I walk Ibu A past some "accumulations of years" edging the stairs and the walls. “Please have this gone when we return, ok?” (requested in bad Indonesian). She says she will try. We’ve left money for food ($1.70/day) and she is to keep a record of time worked and money spent. We’ll see how that goes.

We didn’t pack until yesterday and I don't stress much since W takes care of travel details, but the move has tired me out. Beautiful trees, shrubs in bloom, and lush green planted terraces line the highway; I focus on anything but weaving in and out of traffic. (It's harder to be a passenger than a driver.) Bandung is "home". We will miss the people we’ve met. We say goodbye to a few neighbors and pray with the helper and her husband before we leave: blessings on them and protection on the house. I nap in the car after we leave Bandung at 11am. 

W gets anxious about arriving on time. What will traffic be like? It's actually not bad. We stop for lunch at A&W (I know, right?) before filling up with gas at a highway rest stop. In Jakarta, we run into the SuperIndo grocer for Indonesia spices and ramen for our kids. We’re at the Rempoa flat before 3. Dear friends have loaned us their car and driver so we can park our car at the house. Both the driver and W are happy to get underway on the ring road before rush hour. There is minimal traffic even at the toll stations. We’re at the airport by 5.

“Snag some carts, ok?” W pulls the suitcases out of the car. Among our full complement of luggage, some are empty. To move here last year, we crammed 6 suitcases full of clothing, basic gear, and other necessities. Now we have a better idea of what we need. We gave away or sold most of our household in Seattle but packed up a few things that we weren’t sure we could find in Indonesia. W has a list of things like plumbing supplies (drain plugs, connectors for the washing machine – that we should be able to get here, but the shops are always kurang=out of stock.) I want to bring a sofa cover out of storage. The main thing is to make a habitable base from which to care for others.

Ready to cook for company
Glad we brought old Tupperware along!
We can't sign in for our tickets yet. The attendant tells us the Korean Air counter opens at 7. We arrange our suitcases on two baggage carts so we can sit on them. (The one bench is taken). I ask if W feels less stressed since we are here early. Very early.

“Yes,” he says and sets his phone alarm so he can head for the line when it opens in 2 hours. He walks and explores the airport. I sit with the luggage. But then W finds a foot massage place @$7 (including tip). He stands outside, computer in hand. After a painful half-hour, my feet and shoulders feel better and the airline counter queue is open. I’m almost accustomed to airport waits after all these years. Not quite, but almost.

W found a deal on the tickets of course. Return tickets were $80 and a lot of air miles. The total trip lasts about 40 hours so sleeping along the way is a must. We feel excited about seeing our parents, kids, and grandkids on the other end, even though W flies out to a committee meeting the next day. I have a day to decompress before my calendar lights up. Prayers appreciated that we can be a blessing along the way.

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Coffee dreams and settling in

Thursday, March 12
"Hope it's a wonderful day, Norm." It's my 2nd brother's birthday. We'll try to get to him in the morning (our tomorrow) if we don't reach him today. The strange offset of time makes calling a challenge.

A guava tree by the porch, alive with fruit bats at night
The sun's out and company's coming for lunch. Ibu A is cooking. She ignored my recipe and is doing her own thing, probably a good idea, considering the ingredients. I don't care what we eat and she knows it: what we need is tasty nutritional food. She's a great cook so I rarely take over the kitchen.

It feels like the tail end of rainy season is here. Every week feels warmer; by June it will be really hot and hardly rain. Before we came to Bandung, I worried that its rainy season was similar to Seattle from October to May, where most of the day can be gloomy or at least overcast. I didn't think I could stand it. But in Bandung the sun usually shines half the day before rain gushes down for an hour or more to let you know you're in the wet season. We try to be inside when it pours.

So much happened during the last week. With one week to go, I finally let myself get excited about seeing our family in the Pacific NW.

Meanwhile, we're almost settled into our house. White paint is gradually covering the newly plastered holes and the wear and tear of years. Yesterday I hung living room curtains (white flat bedsheets on IKEA hooks) so we have privacy in the evening. Sheers cover every window but curtains help block light and heat.

Over the past few days, Waldemar and I met with several groups and visited friends at the hospital. We're preparing talks for back in the USA, beginning to pack, and writing. The all-important checklists for our helper's chores are done, mostly because of Josie's capable assistance. Josie is an Excel genius who can organize my ideas into a logical checklist. She also translates my "clean around the window frames" into Bahasa Indonesia.

Ibu A and I go over the lists this morning. I stress to her that she must sign in and out each day with Ibu Stacy, who lives at our old house. Otherwise she will not get paid for that day. The check-in will hopefully provide accountability for her and for her husband. He will continue to plaster and paint while we're gone. It would be very nice to come home after our trip to construction and deep-clean finished!

In the afternoon,  I point to a ring of black around the base of the cabinets as an example of what she needs to do. She says she's already tried to clean it and it doesn't come up. I get the wire brush, some cleaner, and tell her to keep working until I come back.

The landlord's old furniture and two new chairs as the house takes shape
Last weekend - a look back
Sumathi's visa to Singapore is delayed until Friday night, so she changes her flight to Monday while Augustine goes ahead. He's working in Malaysia next week with an accreditation team. Their language class is cancelled while they're gone.

My dear friend stays with us for 2 nights. What a pleasure to hang out with her. Saturday morning, we study scripture, catch up, and share our hopes and plans. We pray together for our kids and our work. Then we do almost nothing on Saturday afternoon, chatting, napping, and snacking while W runs around town. It's pure luxury after a week of moving and cleaning! Sunday morning after church, we eat at Miss Bee's. Then W drives her back down the hill to her home. He makes a stop at the hospital and brings back some electrical cords so we can keep working this week.

Tuesday
We have two tutoring sessions per week, Tuesdays and Fridays. We're not learning as quickly as we did in class but it feels like we are cementing words and more able to use the information.

On the porch, our canary sings sweet notes like there's no tomorrow. He's a lively and noisy bird, caroling the day away between his naps. He reminds me to praise God all day long. He'll stay with the family in our old place while we're away. Their girls are happy to have a pet. Part of the price of coming to Indonesia for them - as for me - was giving away the family dog/s. (Some days I really miss my two poodles! A bird doesn't provide the same adoration. haha)

I mist the canary with a water bottle once or twice a week, simulating rain showers. He's not impressed and ducks his head down until I'm done. Then he preens happily and sings some more.

Wednesday
We take the angkot downtown to Cafe Aroma, wedged between dozens of motorcycle and car repair shops. The shop has a constant flow of customers, buying the coffee roasted (and ground, optionally) that day. Aroma is sold in the finer shops around town but this is the motherlode.

Pak Widyapratama, lord of all the coffee he roasts
Where it all happens
The owner leads us out the back door. Behind the factory, raw coffee beans are drying on screens in the sun before they will be aged for 8 years in piles of burlap sacks. The smell around us is mellow, almost sweet.

Beans, sweetened by the sun
"This is the yellow color of the beans after aging," he explains. The harsh taste of modern coffee comes from the quick process from field to cup. "Most coffee today is processed by companies who care more about money than about coffee. We still roast coffee the traditional way. I am the third generation of Aroma and still make things like my father and grandfather did." His daughter also works in the shop, which has been open since 1930.

Beans before and after aging
Pak W shows us how they roast coffee over a wood fire, turned continually in 60 and 100 kg metal drums. He pulls out a metal shaft, hollowed at one end to catch a few beans, and checks their progress. "3 more minutes and it will be done," he with a quick look and sniff.

Slow wood-roasting
One of the most helpful visits this week is from Terry and Lulu Paschell, who worked in Bandung for 8 years (plus twenty more across Indonesia and the Philippines). They offer us good tips and tell interesting stories, sharing their legacy in students and colleagues. Lulu delights us with a copy of her book on marriage, written in Indonesian, sure to be put to good use in years to come.


The Paschells introduce us to two couples who remain their good friends, even after being gone from Bandung for years. After dinner together at the Reistafel (thank you, Pak I), we are taken to a separate area for the Full Gospel Business meeting. Waldemar and I introduce ourselves, as do the rest of the guests. As always, Indonesians give us a gracious and warm welcome. (How do people in the West treat those who come with Good News from Asia and other nations? Perhaps we're sometimes less inviting or inclusive.)

Two more days. Then we'll be on a jet plane. Feeling happy. But thinking ahead, I somehow miss this place already. This city feels like home.

Read more:
*I call on you, my God, for you will answer me; turn your ear to me and hear my prayer. Show me the wonders of your great love, you who save by your right hand those who take refuge in you from their foes.

Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings from the wicked who are out to destroy me, from my mortal enemies who surround me. Psalm 17:6-9 NIV


*O LORD, you are my God; I will exalt you; I will praise your name, for you have done wonderful things, plans formed of old, faithful and sure. Isaiah 25:1 NEV

*Hezekiah received the letter and read it; then he went up to the house of the Lord and spread it before the Lord. 2 Kings 19:14 NEV

*Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6 NEV

Moravian Prayer: Loving Father, we come to you today with many questions. Guide us in our journey as we pray for the purpose that you have placed into our hearts, our minds, and our hands. Amen.

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Cleaning and praying

Horses in raincoats. Part of a Bandung traffic jam.
Wednesday, March 4
W and I have been busy beavers (yup, we're Canadians) since our move last weekend. We've had language tutoring and practiced what we learned while running errands around town. Inbetween, we've swept, mopped, unpacked, repacked, replaced, unpacked again. Around us, the aging grey walls are being painted, shelves are put into place, and floors and counters scrubbed. We've razored off the Miss Kitty hooks and hung our washcloth and dishtowels on plain white ones.

Cassava before and after:
raw and steamed deliciousness
In the evening I flip the light on in the kitchen and pour myself a cup of tea. Out pops a lizard from inside the storage bag where the tea is waiting for a cabinet. EEEk. When I rinse my cup, another lizard darts across the sink and up the wall. Eeek X 2. I'm not a lizard fan but I'm grateful that they eat other small critters.

Thursday
The handyman shows up at 8am. It's painting day again today. However, his wife - our helper is ill: we pray God's healing and comfort for her.

A big roach says hi this morning, resting on the shower curtain that I pull across the rooftop laundry area. During storms, the curtain keeps the rain from pelting the clothes as they dry. Otherwise provides shade so the upstairs doesn't overheat. Many rooms are screened but not closed off to the air: a mini-oven like the partly-enclosed laundry warms up the interior rooms quickly through the open slats.

The mess that is moving day
Every home has a personality. This one is more secluded from the street but it feels friendlier and more open inside. As a bonus, we don't have to yell between most rooms: the last house had small doors and many concrete walls so we had to be in the same room to hear each other.

W's happy. His passport arrives at the embassy so he'll pick it up in time to fly to Seattle with me. 

He had three meetings with friends already this week and will have another tonight. We've encountered many wonderful people in Bandung, but I'm missing my friend Dr W from across the street. We'll pass each other in the sky on different airplanes and see each other back in Bandung in a month or two.

We Skype with one of our supporting organizations mid-morning. It's wonderful to see Blake's face, a former piano student and W's university student. 

The call to prayer resounds through the neighborhoods as I write. We ask God's love and his favor on our neighbors, our friends, our city. May God bless Bandung.

Sunday, March 1, 2015

The dust begins to settle

As the dust settles in the house, we are thinking and praying forward.

Sunday we slept for the first time in the new place and love it. It will be an excellent venue for our work as well as hosting friends who come to assist with community development, etc. God's timing is perfect: the family arriving for language school visited last week; they will maintain the old house for us to helps us look after it until the lease expires in August. They're equally handy and careful so we have no worries. We are leaving our old internet hookup for them so I'm back, overlooking the yard. Their laundry hangs on the clothesline we repaired and painted. Excellent all around.

Jambu fruit

We had our first guest Sunday as well. She arrived with fresh pastries baked by her mom. Now that's a good friend, to brave traffic from the other side of town on her motorcycle! We visited and prayed a blessing on her and her family. She took home avocados and jambu, a crisp watery red fruit from our own trees. We still have to explore the other food growing in the back.

Snakes, a resident mongoose, monkeys, and other critters live in the adjoining jungle. God watches over us all. We appreciate your prayers and partnership.

Read more:
*God says, “I will establish my covenant between me and you, and your offspring after you throughout their generations.” Genesis 17:7 NEV

*Your steadfast love, O Lord, extends to the heavens, your faithfulness to the clouds. Psalm 36:5 NEV

*Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:25-26 ESV

*Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV

*Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Romans 8:35 NEV

*For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7 ESV

Moravian Prayer: Dearest Lord, never let us be separated from you or our brothers and sisters in Christ. Help us to share your many blessings and boundless comfort with those whom we encounter today. Amen.

Friday, February 27, 2015

Moving days

Teachers and students: post-school celebration
Tonight is our last night in the house where we landed in Bandung. Tomorrow at midnight, our lease kicks in and we'll be in a new home.

Wednesday, February 24
We finally have lunch with our teachers from last semester. Sumathi's stomach continues to give her trouble but she comes along anyway. How we appreciate the patience and enthusiasm of our tutors!

Parts of Wednesday and Thursday are spent signing papers and getting a copy of the house lease from the notary. W and I plan the next few days. An American family with four kids arrived Tuesday before noon. They unfolds into bedrooms and stack suitcases in the entry. Before long, they're getting sorted, the LEGOs are spread out in one corner, and everyone is getting comfy.

Paket 6: Raja Sunda restaurant
We're not sleeping well or long enough. With change swirling around us, we're both crabby and occasionally short-tempered.

Two girls have short bouts of illness and the family rallies around them. They've moved into our household seamlessly, pitching in to cook, wash dishes, and play together. W's walking around town most of the afternoon so I disappear into my room for some quiet time, reading, and writing. This house is ideally a one-family space: the living spaces are connected so what happens in one room happens in all areas.

Meanwhile, at the new place, Bapak E paints our bedroom white and takes out a big wooden frame above the bathroom mirror. It was built for fluorescent fixtures but when the lights stopped working, the owners ran a wire to a naked bulb in the center of the frame. I asked permission to remove the structure; without it, the whole room looks brighter.

Two floor tiles that dressed up our IKEA patio tables fit over a worn kitchen counter. Pak E will customize and finish it off by inserting a wooden cutting board between them.

To end the day, one of the girls vacuums both sides of a rug left in the house.Then Ibu A and I roll it up and carry it up the stairs. Unroll. Done. Back downstairs. We'll tackle upstairs on another day!

Recycling, 18 tires on a motorcycle
Thursday
At 6am, W walks Kevin and his 15-yr-old son down the hill to a coffee shop. They have breakfast with the usual guys before walking back up. We love to walk the neighborhoods and pray for those who pass by and those who sit at the side and call out a greeting.

Ibu A shows up at the house at 8. By the time Stacy comes back from a walk with her girls, I've packed up the living room cabinet and much of the kitchen; Ibu A has moved it over. "That's my kind of 9:30," Stacy exclaims. Mine too, life in motion.

We shift blankets and bedding, shoes and hanging clothing, stationary and art supplies. The family comes back from a quick trip for basic supplies. It can be frustrating when the shops are out of goods that they display. That's normal: we often have to go back several times and to several stores to get things we need. "Kosong," they tell us. ("None.")

When I get home, the girls run back and forth with what I pack up. The youngest is quick as a rabbit. By the time I turn around, she's back for another load. It's a huge help. While I'm at the other house, Kevin and Luke roll up the rugs and move the living-room furniture over. They're strong: together they bring the sofa and heavy chairs.

The point is not a new place. We feel always on alert, called to pray when we hear the calls from the mosques. We sense that God is stirring the people we are coming to love and every resource is a tool from him.

Friday
W and I start with joint devotions, today from Romans 11. It can be a confusing passage - yet Paul sings an exulting hymn of praise at the end. We have missed a few days of joint study. It's a relief to have time, even shortened to a half-hour, to work together.

Then comes a tutoring session from 9-11am with Josie. W and I are both distracted but it's helpful to hear and speak Bahasa Indonesia. Josie translates for us when the appliance store delivers our new refrigerator. It's big compared to the little one in this house and it doesn't leak water. Here we kept a towel at the base of the fridge to dissipate the water on the floor. (The new fridge costs less than our fridge in Seattle cost 20 years ago.) Cooking and food preparation for groups have been a real chore with limited storage. Being about to work the day ahead allows me to focus on a meeting day.

The Johnson family has fun, too. They head off in the morning with a driver from the language school. While we continue to clear out, they're shopping for appliances and household items. They have their first encounter with ACE Hardware, walking from one counter to the next to pay, to sign up, and to sign out and ... ? Everything takes longer here. It's not as simple as standing in line and handing a credit card to the check-out worker. Typically, we walk from one person to the next until the transactions are completed. It's a good way to employ a lot of people.

Friends, a few weeks ago, in what will be our kitchen
By the time they come back in the evening with a fridge of their own (plus a few other necessities), the old kitchen is emptied and wiped down. The remaining dishes, food from the cabinets, and bedding have been transferred.

In the afternoon, I do a final load of laundry and hang it outside on the clothesline.

Meanwhile, Ibu A has put things into cabinets in the new kitchen. I open a drawer and think, "That goes there? Maybe not." Gradually, we'll move them to suit my own rhythm of cooking and baking.

When the second team of delivery men arrives, they install the Johnson's appliances here and bring our washing machine to the new place. W tells the movers to set the washer in the living room.

"We'll figure it out tomorrow," he promises me.

Good! I would have sent those hardy bodies right up the circular staircase to the laundry on the roof. He'd better figure out how to move it early in the day because I need it tomorrow.

Oh we're tired! W is "finished" by about 4:30. I motor on for another hour and a half. The new place is heaped with pillows and blankets on the sofa and table, packing materials strewn in two piles, and food boxes on the counters.

By nightfall, only our office, fridge, and bedroom are left to clear out here. Let's leave those for tomorrow.

In my head, I can see it all in place. It's a lot of work (again), but we can't wait to have people over when it's done. We'll talk and pray together and see what God wants to do among us.

Read more:
*Because you obey the voice of the Lord your God: blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the country. Deuteronomy 28:2–3 NKJV

*Good and upright is the Lord; therefore he instructs sinners in the way. Psalm 25:8 NEV

*Jesus said to his disciples: Blessed are your eyes, for they see, and your ears, for they hear. Matthew 13:16 NEV

*Welcome those who are weak in faith, but not for the purpose of quarreling over opinions. Romans 14:1 NEV

*Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18 NEV

Moravian Prayer: No matter where we go, Lord, you go with us. In each breath we take there is the Holy Spirit filling us to excess with love, mercy, and grace. May each breath that leaves us gift others with the same blessings. 
Let us take the time to listen, Lord, when you are calling. You are not always direct in your speaking to us. Let us be ready to meet you in the places and times of your choosing. Make us instruments of your peace and love. Amen.

Monday, February 23, 2015

Full house!

Pastor Terry of BIC church
Sunday, February 22
W and I are privileged to speak at a local church. That's one of the most energizing and relaxing things we do together, trading off information and stories as if in a conversation. Getting the material together is an arduous process since we only began to do it last year.

We start with scripture or a topic - this time assigned. Either one of us begins to stash ideas in a GoogleDoc. Usually we have to talk through the direction because our approach is almost opposite. W gathers details that sort into a flow of information. I'm more likely to set up a target and sections and flesh out the ideas as we go.

Our idea edits are mutual and simultaneous. We start typing and assigning parts as we read aloud. If a main idea feels long, we keep breaking up the reading into shorter sections. By the time we present, the conversation is comfortable and well-timed.

Ibu Josie's mom explains the significance and
nutrition of the special foods for New Year
And so it was Sunday. Listeners always seem surprised. First, few couples co-speak equally. More often, one person will say a personal hello to greet or wrap-up while the other is the main speaker. Second, we plan 10-20 minutes for audience remarks and Q&A at the end. People talk about what they've heard or ask theology questions. It's good fun for us and hopefully helpful to those who respond.

Our good friends Sumathi and Augustine came to cheer us on and pray for us. Having a "friend on the bench" means the world to us. We dropped our things off at home, walked through the new house together, and then went for lunch at Miss Bee's.


Happy Chinese New Year with teachers and friends
Monday
We are invited to a Chinese New Year's lunch for seminary students at Guru Josie's house. Her mom, a great caterer, starts us off with Chinese pancakes. Each filling has a special meaning. And then the main course arrives: noodles, rice, various meats and vegetables. I go back for seconds. TOO MUCH food! followed by home-baked pastries. Oh yum.

Back home, we finally meet Kevin, Stacy, and their 4 kids from Texas. They're experienced expats, having lived in India and visited many countries. They're staying in a hotel nearby for 2 nights before moving in with us tomorrow. (We hope to sign the lease on another place Wednesday, but the earnest money and initial contract were exchanged last week.) How do they want to arrange sleeping quarters until we shift out this weekend? We talk over some details and part friends.

While I look over our language sheets, W walks to Yogya for chicken. Ibu A will be cooking a big lunch tomorrow!

The Johnson family in cooler times
Tuesday
After language class, we walk back across the street to move a few items of furniture into place. We don't have a bench, so we snag a sofa for one side of the table. Ibu A outdoes herself again with a coconut curry chicken dish, papaya and lime, salad, avocado, and rice. Of course there's rice.

The Johnsons pitch in to do dishes while we walk Ibu A and her handyman husband Pak E to the new place. Today Pak E's task is to put a commercial paint primer over old water stains on downstairs ceiling. Ibu A will vacuum, wash, and rinse cabinets in the main bedroom and kitchen. And we have to buy a fridge and make a hospital visit. So we have our own chore list.

Thank you for your prayers all along the way!

Saturday, February 21, 2015

Why does every word sound the same?

Lina quizzes me on life in a foreign country
We'll speak together in Indonesia for the first time this Sunday morning. In English. It's a strange process, this gathering of God's work and words into a presentation. More about that later.

Lent began on Wednesday. Every day requires its own discipline to write a post at the Simple Life blog.

The backyard is once again filled with construction debris. "I'm finished," declares the handyman, after replacing the roof tiles above the leaking hallway with corrugated metal sheets. Plastic lunch baggies, a scrap pile of rotted wood, and bamboo scaffolding clutter the driveway and back yard. Ok, so who is going to carry away the garbage?

A welcome diversion: our niece calls from Edmonton. She has to interview intercultural workers. "Call an organization? No way. I'm calling my aunt." We have a lively Q&A. She's a smart cookie and great writer.

Friday, February 20:
Guru Josie, we've MISSED you! One of our language school tutors from last semester comes for our first session. She reviews the material Pak B gives us on Tuesdays, conversing with us and correcting our pronunciation. We realize how much we've forgotten from what we knew in class.

We constantly need to use vocabulary and structure to make the language our own. It's easier to decipher the action as we watch TV though. I find a favorite Korean drama translated into Indonesian. That helps keep my attention from wandering but I often have a headache from focusing and trying to understand. I keep Google Translate open on my laptop.

After two hours of language tutoring, W heads downtown. My shoes are on, my phone is in my pocket, and ... I just don't have the energy to walk out the door. So I take off my shoes, put down my phone and sunglasses, and get out my language books. I write a weekly "New Normal" caption for a strange photo (see the frog below) and develop an outline for our talk for the church bulletin.

It takes an hour to draw a hot bath: the shower head slowly drips lukewarm water into the tub while 10-12 kettles of hot water heat up. I have two pots running on the induction burner: as soon as one boils, I pour it into the tub while the other pot goes on the burner. As I write, it occurs to me: I could heat 4 pots on the stove at the same time and make it faster. (Ah, my brain is truly on under-drive if I just realized that, after living here 6 months. Sigh.)

W's back with 10,000 steps on his FitBit. (I have 300 on mine.) He brings a crispy pizza from Miss Bee's. It's Italian-style thin crust with limited toppings. But it is pizza-like and that's a good thing when my head is buzzing with words like menggunakan (to use), membeli (to buy), and melihat (to look). Don't even get me started on pernikahan (wedding/marriage), pembantu (helper), and pelayan (waiter). Or beristirahat (to rest), berkumpul (to meet together), or berasal (where you come from).

Our New Normal: A real bullfrog transformed.
Need a 12" nightlight anyone?
I can't always place words onto my tongue in the moment. And if W jumps in with the right one, my brain goes into a total scramble and then blanks out. (It's like zapping my circuits with electricity and shutting down the system.) Language acquisition is a slow process. How frustrating to have had a snapping memory and now to have almost none!

W and I always have a rocky start to joint presentations. This time, he asked me to come up with an outline while he works on a talk for Northwest University. As we read the passages during devotions, three points jump out at me. I put them on paper and hand him a copy for discussion.

"What am I supposed to do with this?" he asks, glancing at the page. "This isn't the way my mind works."

Haha. That's always the problem, no matter who takes the lead. He and I process information so differently. I immediately draw a big picture of where we're going, while he begins to analyze the pieces and sort them into categories. The broad scope emerges for him as a result of research, while I zoom in on a general target and build steps toward it. I gather resources and plug in details on the way.

W and I sort and scramble and sift. We have a script in the end, working out who will say what. It gets smoother and smoother and finally lays flat on the page, settles in our heads, and rolls off our tongues. It helps to be surrounded by prayers.

Saturday:
The morning has started by the time Ibu A arrives at 8. The oven is heating, which we don't take for granted. (Most households have a stovetop only.) In our new surroundings, baking is considered a noun, something to be picked up from a bakery, rather than a verb, something to be done.

Most locals don't bake much at home. Frying? Oh yes! Everything is fried. I finally bought oil-gathering sheets to soak up the cooking oil in our foods. Ibu A slips a sheet under the freshly fried rice, fried chicken, fried noodles, and fried "you-name-it" before transferring it to a serving bowl.

Anyhow, when the oven is hot, I bake a loaf of bread. W and I read our "talk" together in preparation for the Sunday service and eat hot bread and cheese, a luxury item from the expat supermarket. I leave 1/3 of the small loaf on Ibu A's counter. By the time we return from our meeting, it's almost gone.

"Roti enak," she tells me, a big smile on her face. [= Good bread.]

Hard at work to run a harmonious neighborhood
The meeting is our second attendance at the monthly neighborhood council. Water, garbage (a new composting program) and traffic are on the agenda. Last month the leaders also mentioned security concerns. "How do we find out what we could do to inform security when something is going on?"

The security guys come by a few times each night, rapping a stick against the metal poles and fenceposts to announce that they're on the job. We don't even hear that any more, but it was startling at first to wake to the clang clang clang on our gate at 1, 3, or 4am. How could they be informed if a thief is on the roof or we have an emergency?

I had mentioned that W's a tech and gadget whiz; perhaps he would be willing to assemble some basic info for them. (He'd gone to another errand at that point last month.) Today, W comes prepared with handouts of options and prices. The parameters are helpful in the discussion. One of the things we love about Indonesians is how resourceful and gracious they are as a society. They appropriate and appreciate shared information and resources.

I am surprised to hear that I also had volunteered to lead an English class for them. (I do vaguely remember agreeing that if someone wanted to learn English, I'd be happy to help.) Only one person has indicated interested in a class. Whew. But they think it might be fun to meet monthly at the community center for English conversation. Could we help them by speaking English? Of course. Someone mentions that maybe every other month they would speak only bahasa Indonesia so we could learn their language.

"Maybe one-on-one would help more for that," another suggests. When we get back after our travels, several of us will talk about practicalities.

We find out that we'll miss the neighborhood's 50th Anniversary Celebration in March. We're so disappointed! What an important milestone for our neighbors. The Indonesian government established Kompleks LIPI to consolidate efforts to develop and promote a national program of scientific research and development. The best minds in the country came together - and many of them still live here. We appreciate our brilliant neighbors and they've extended a warm welcome to us.

W and I drive to a few furniture stores. We're back by 6pm, which gives me time to nap before a conference call to Seattle. The credentialed women on the Hangout refresh my heart and set me back on track. Thank you, ladies! I squish the ants that climb onto the desk and into the arms and legs of my pyjamas as we talk.

It's almost 2 a.m. when I get back to bed. Two security guards clatter by in the deep night. Prayers appreciated for the upcoming presentation. Thanks!

Read more:
*I remember the days of old. I ponder all your great works and think about what you have done. I lift my hands to you in prayer. I thirst for you as parched land thirsts for rain. Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don't turn away from me, or I will die.

Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you. Rescue me from my enemies, Lord; I run to you to hide me. Teach me to do your will, for you are my God. May your gracious Spirit lead me forward on a firm footing. Psalm 143:5-10 NLT

*Make a joyful shout to the Lord, all you lands! Serve the Lord with gladness; come before His presence with singing. Know that the Lord, He is God; it is He who has made us, and not we ourselves; We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.

Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name. For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations. Psalm 100 NKJV


*We ought always to give thanks to God for you, brothers, as is right, because your faith is growing abundantly, and the love of every one of you for one another is increasing. 2 Thessalonians 1:3 NEV

Evening Prayer: Dear God, let our hearts rest in you as we look back on the day and forward to the night. Whatever the changes and transitions, let us turn time and time again toward you, never away. Give us the confidence to come to you with our requests. We are grateful to belong to your family and that you hear our prayers. With our thanks we honor you. Amen

Thursday, February 19, 2015

My biggest culture shock and a girls'-day-out

The view from our window: an ongoing construction zone
My annual discipline at Lent: blog@ SIMPLE LIFE.

Wednesday, February 18

The big event of my week and maybe my month? It's my first girls-day-out in Bandung - and we've been here 6 months. HURRAH. Sandy says her job as  "resident tour guide" has developed as part of her call to Bandung. She has time (her husband is a pastor) and she knows Bandung. What fun! Both of us have a 2pm deadline so we start early, at 9:30am.

While we're gone, W tries to record his sermon for Northwest University Chapel (due Feb. 22). Motorcycles, noisy conversations, and the roof repairs prevent a good video. Maybe tomorrow.

First, S's driver drops us at a busy furniture workshop down the hill. I imagined a Western furniture store, not a hole-in-the-wall with a desk and pamphlets of furniture finishes and foam coverings.

The furniture workshop. (The sign is for
a tech company.) Would you have known?
"This is the way it's done here," S gently reminds me. Of course! I should have come prepared with pictures (and will, next time.) Luckily I know the dimensions for the nook bench and dining table we need. I draw a few options while the driver helps interpret. The shop owner promises quotes by evening but time is flexible here.

Next we drive to Good Buy, an expat-friendly showroom. The furniture is beautifully made of quality woods, about $40+ for chairs, chaises, tables, and more. I ask for nook and table quotes and spot a few items we need for the new place.
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Each time we go to the house we plan to lease, more furniture is missing. W sends a note to the landlord with the updated contract. Could he please let us know if anything else will be taken? At this point, there are two lumpy daybeds on the porch, a dining table, 2 worn sets of LR furniture, and some cabinets downstairs, with a few beds, desks, a chair, and 2 nightstands upstairs. It's a big house and we'll have lots of company as usual.

Local furniture outlet: Good Buy
"Please stop emptying the place!" we think, having agreed on a lease price when it was still quite furnished. Who keeps raiding the place? Stop already. The lease says partially furnished. Can we agree on what that means?
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On the way to lunch, S and I find a porcelain reject shop. The cutlery prices are fabulous - oh oh, actually they're 10X the price I first understood. Put those forks and spoons back! And then I feel hungry.

We have a delicious lunch at Hummingbird, a shop own by the Miss Bee's Providor group (our neighborhood favorite). We choose creamy mushroom pasta and Thai salad.

When S leaves, I realize the enormity of her gift to me. A day out with a woman friend. WOW. Priceless balm to my soul.

I promised to be "real" about our life here. So here's something I didn't expect to be such a bother.

Everyone facing a new culture says at least one thing shocks their system. What I miss more than anything else - my most drastic cultural shift - is giving up my autonomy. I can go nowhere alone. As a man, W often heads out by himself. He prefers to walk so even simple errands can take most of the day. Depending on traffic, driving the car can take hours in traffic. And if we're driving, we have to focus; it's not the casual "jump in the car, drive and chat, and soon you're there without even thinking," like where we grew up.

As a female bulé (Western foreigner), I don't drive around alone: I'd be in serious trouble if my car bumper hit someone who wandered into the roadway or tried to drive a motorbike through a too-narrow gap. That means I'm effectively grounded unless W chaperones. It's worse than when I misbehaved as a teen.
Traffic: a slow moment, noting the gaps between vehicles

S affirms what every other woman - local peer or expat - has said: "The supir (driver) is a necessary buffer between traffic and our destination, between a woman's restrictions and access beyond her immediate neighborhood. We have little [and some say, no] freedom to explore or experience our surroundings without a driver."

S's excellent driver speaks good English. He often translates to make sure she's not overpaying, being taken advantage of, or mis-communicating with locals. When he's not driving, he gardens, is a handyman, keeps the yard clean, and cleans inside the house when they travel. What's not to like?

"Do you know a good driver who could work for us?" I ask him. "Would he do the same kind of work for us?"

"Yes, I have a friend looking for work," he replies. "He is in his 50s, not young, but he knows Bandung, is a good driver, and reliable."

"Please ask if he wants work," I say. It's time to write a driver into our budget, for my sanity's sake. If not before our break next month, we must hire someone upon our return. (But what a relief it will be to drive myself during furloughs! My shoulders go down and I feel relaxed just thinking about it.)

After reaching home, S and I walk through the new house. She likes it but notes that there's a lot of work to do. We both left big houses in N. America. Here we have the same, but this time with a helper. It makes all the difference in releasing us for other things.

W and I are supposed to sign the lease this afternoon but the official "chop" hasn't been put on the contract. We wait for the landlord to get that done and hear no more this evening.


Thursday: Happy New Years to all our Chinese friends!
W heads off to his morning men's group. Not surprisingly to him, no one shows up because of the holiday. Many shops are closed. He comes back with 10,000 steps on his FitBit. I have 300 so far.

Fortunately, Ibu A comes as usual to clean and make lunch. Her beef rendang is a work of art. Click here for a similar recipe.

Beef Rendang
Most of the morning, we work on our Sunday talk for a local church. W's also recording his chapel video for Northwest University, to be shown February 25. (Get the podcast after that, if you're interested.) Motorcycles zoom by = "Take 2." Our canary chirps too loudly so W takes the cage off the porch hook and puts it on the ground = "Take 3" or 5 or 7. One of 100 neighborhood cats knocks the cage over to get at our bird. Water spills in the cage and the rotting cumber disgorges its contents on the cage floor. Time to clean the cage. Poor birdy.

Read more:
*My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken. Psalm 62:1-2 NIV

*O Sovereign Lord! You made the heavens and earth by your strong hand and powerful arm. Nothing is too hard for you! Jeremiah 32:17 NLT

*Who dares despise the day of small things, will rejoice when they see the chosen capstone. Zechariah 4:10 NIV

*As they were gathering in Galilee, Jesus said to his disciples, “The Son of Man is going to be betrayed into human hands, and they will kill him, and on the third day he will be raised.” Matthew 17:22-23 NEV

*For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39 ESV

Moravian Prayer: As we prepare for the solemn time of Lent, help us grow closer to you. Teach us about the life of your Son so that we may better understand the sacrifice he made for us. We look toward Easter with anticipation and hope. Amen.